Domestic violence takes many forms, but the goal is the same. The goal is to control through fear. Controlling through fear is done regularly by abusing the victim: physically, sexually, psychologically, and economically.
- Physical Abuse - hitting, slapping, kicking, choking, punching, pinching, pushing, denying medical care. Note: Even if physical abuse has occurred only one or two times in your relationship, you should still be concerned. Studies show that if abuse happens just two times, it is likely to occur again. Each attack is usually worse than the last. Batterers may say they will never abuse you again. They may even cry. However, abusers rarely stop abusing.
- Verbal Abuse - name-calling, swearing, yelling, putting you down, mocking.
- Sexual Abuse - forcing sex, demanding sexual acts that you do not want to perform.
- Economic Control - refusing to give you money, not paying bills, not letting you work, causing you to lose your job, refusing to work
- Isolation - not allowing you to be around your friends or family members, monitoring your phone calls, taking your car keys, checking the mileage on your car when you come and go, controlling what you do and who you see. Note: Keeping you away from others is a way that only he can influence you and your thought.
- Harassment and Coercion - embarrassing you in public, following or stalking you, constantly checking up on you, refusing to leave when asked, making you feel guilty, always insisting on being right accusing you of cheating, being overly jealous.
- Threats and Intimidation - shouting, threatening to harm you, the children, and other family members, and pets, keeping weapons and threatening to use them, threatening to commit suicide, using physical size to intimidate.
- Destruction of Property - punching walls, throwing things, breaking items slashing tires.
Note: The situations described above are not normal. They are all forms of abuse. If you have experienced any of these, you are in an abusive relationship. The abuse is not your fault. It is serious. You and your children could get hurt or killed.
District Attorney: Tracy Graham Lawson
Harold R. Banke Justice Center
9151 Tara Boulevard
Jonesboro, GA 30236
Phone: (770) 477-3450
Fax: (770) 477-4577
Domestic Violence – Facts
- In the United States, a woman is battered every 9 seconds. There are over 3 million incidents of domestic violence every year.
- In the United States, domestic violence causes more injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
- Domestic violence can be fatal. In this country, one third of homicides are related to domestic violence. Every year over 4000 victims of domestic violence are killed. Approximately 40% of female homicides are caused by their husband or boyfriend.
- Batterers can be anyone. Domestic violence is not related to age, profession, wealth, race, religion or education level.
- Domestic violence is not caused by the victim or by stress, alcohol, or drugs. Studies have determined that there is no set of personality traits that describe victims of domestic violence. It is the batterer who is responsible for the abuse, not the victim.
- Domestic violence can leave victims feeling trapped and unable to help themselves. Victims of domestic violence often feel isolated, powerless, fearful, guilty, and dependent financially and/or physically.