Tension starts to build. The abuser increases threats of violence and name calling. Pushing and shoving may start. During this phase, the victim often makes extra efforts to please and calm the abuser.
Phase 2-Act of Violence
The violence occurs. The abuser explodes and may throw objects at his partner, hit, kick, choke, sexually abuse, or use weapons on his partner.
Phase 3- Honeymoon
The abuser apologizes repeatedly. He expresses guilt and shame for the abuse. He promises that it will not happen again and says things will be different. (Begging for forgiveness is part of the method is used to control the victim. Batterers rarely stop battering). He may gifts for his partner. The abuser may blame the violence on his partner, saying it wouldn’t have happened if she hadn’t made him angry.
Note: Phase 1 starts over and the Cycle of Violence continues……………
District Attorney: Tracy Graham Lawson
Harold R. Banke Justice Center
9151 Tara Boulevard
Jonesboro, GA 30236
Phone: (770) 477-3450
Fax: (770) 477-4577
Domestic Violence – Facts
- In the United States, a woman is battered every 9 seconds. There are over 3 million incidents of domestic violence every year.
- In the United States, domestic violence causes more injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
- Domestic violence can be fatal. In this country, one third of homicides are related to domestic violence. Every year over 4000 victims of domestic violence are killed. Approximately 40% of female homicides are caused by their husband or boyfriend.
- Batterers can be anyone. Domestic violence is not related to age, profession, wealth, race, religion or education level.
- Domestic violence is not caused by the victim or by stress, alcohol, or drugs. Studies have determined that there is no set of personality traits that describe victims of domestic violence. It is the batterer who is responsible for the abuse, not the victim.
- Domestic violence can leave victims feeling trapped and unable to help themselves. Victims of domestic violence often feel isolated, powerless, fearful, guilty, and dependent financially and/or physically.